"Why am I so tired?" - Every Parent Struggles!Mar 28, 2021
Let’s talk about how overwhelming the greatest job in the world is.
We often hear parents talk about how tired they are. For parents this is the equivalent of answering “Fine” when someone asks “how are you?”, and while this is the only job on the planet that is 24 hours a day 7 days a week, I believe that what parents are feeling is overwhelmed and lonely. Lonely in their self-doubt, lonely in their decisions, or lonely in the day to day demands of parenting. Loneliness and overwhelm can cause decreased energy, insomnia, feeling foggy, feeling anxious, and feelings of self-doubt among other things, all attributes we dismiss as part of being a parent.
When this generation became parents we did it in full force! While our parents got “should” and “should not” while at the doctor or maybe from a teacher, we have a never ending information highway right in our pockets. We have become so overwhelmed by what other parents and experts are telling us to do that we forget to see and understand the individuality in our own children, and begin to doubt our own abilities to know what is best for them.
“Should my baby be walking already?”
“Should my 3 year old be potty trained?”
“Should I have my son in sports? Everyone else’s son is in sports.”
We are constantly striving to be the best parent we can be while facing enormous stresses in today's world. On top of the stresses we have opinions coming in from all angles forcing us to question our decisions as a parent, decisions that should be solely based on the well-being of our OWN children.
Now, if every parent is going through struggles, how come we feel so lonely and overwhelmed? How can we possibly feel lonely and overwhelmed when we see an infinite number of posts about parent challenges and solutions? The answer here I believe is simple. There is no other parent on this planet that is exactly like you. There is no child on this planet that is exactly like your child. Our experiences of this job are completely our own and unique to the choices we make as a parent. Therefore the key is finding confidence in who you are as a person and in turn a parent, regardless of what others are telling you.
So if we are in fact feeling lonely and overwhelmed instead of exhausted what can we do about it? How do we feel connected when all our experiences are in fact different? The answer, take a step back.
- Understand how you are spending your time and what you are doing each day that brings YOU joy and lights YOU up. Taking the time to find who you are separate from being a parent first before meeting the needs of your family. Click here to Download my One Week to Clarity Booklet
- Look at what YOU want for your family and decide what values and boundaries are important in your life.
- Communicate, communicate, communicate! Change is not easy, and it is even harder when you have to go it alone. Find a support system that understands your values and use them to your full advantage!
I help committed parents of children age 1 to 10 move from questioning their parenting to being the confident parent they are meant to be. I do this through 1:1 coaching sessions and a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership.
You are not alone!